Comments on: Christian Divorce http://archshrk.com/2006/05/christian-divorce World's Bestest SEO Wed, 19 Nov 2008 14:17:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Andrew http://archshrk.com/2006/05/christian-divorce#comment-66817 Andrew Tue, 05 Aug 2008 15:21:15 +0000 http://archshrk.com/?p=234#comment-66817 No, I don't think it is lawful to divorce neither is it lawful to remarry, while the spouse is still alive, see Romans 7:2-3 "So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man." Somewhere else it is written in the Bible that if the woman (but the same goes for man) has divorced the other and has not remarried yet, he or she should go back (of course, if the other hasn't married in the mean time). To Nicole, I'm writing this a year after your post, but I'll still pray for you. No, I don’t think it is lawful to divorce neither is it lawful to remarry, while the spouse is still alive, see Romans 7:2-3
“So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.”
Somewhere else it is written in the Bible that if the woman (but the same goes for man) has divorced the other and has not remarried yet, he or she should go back (of course, if the other hasn’t married in the mean time).

To Nicole, I’m writing this a year after your post, but I’ll still pray for you.

]]> By: Nicole http://archshrk.com/2006/05/christian-divorce#comment-41348 Nicole Wed, 17 Oct 2007 01:38:37 +0000 http://archshrk.com/?p=234#comment-41348 My husband wants to divorce me after 12 years of marriage. I have two small children. He says he wants Gods perfect will for his life and our childrens but that he isn't in love with me anymore. And surely going through the motions are not a good idea. In his mind. He did have an affair earlier this year, and I told him I would forgive him and we could go to counseling. He doesn't want to. He says he is saved, and wants God's will, but not me. I am so angry and rejected. I feel like I have fought for my family, by fasting, by prayer. It's no use. I am saved myself. But still I feel like there was not a disclaimer when I was married. Why now all of a sudden is there? <strong>archshrk responds: My first advice is to seek Godly counsel from your church elders. Both of you. This may be difficult if your husband is resistant or unwilling to reconcile but you should go even if he won't. If you are not currently a member of a church then look for a Christian counseling center in your area. Finally, be sure to spend time in the word. The articles I linked to in the post are well supported by scripture and are a good place to start to understand God's will in this issue. We all sin despite the assurance of our salvation. Your husband may already be saved and this is simply the consequence of sin in his life. We can't change him (the Holy Spirit changes our hearts) but you can still be obedient to God through your actions, demonstrating Christ in all that you do. My hope is that you can reconcile and that both of you honor your covenant. I'd like to help you as much as I am called and am able to counsel you both. In that regard, please feel free to email me with any questions you have and to let me know how things are going. Even if you're not interested, please let me know that you received this email.</strong> My husband wants to divorce me after 12 years of marriage. I have two small children. He says he wants Gods perfect will for his life and our childrens but that he isn’t in love with me anymore. And surely going through the motions are not a good idea. In his mind. He did have an affair earlier this year, and I told him I would forgive him and we could go to counseling. He doesn’t want to. He says he is saved, and wants God’s will, but not me. I am so angry and rejected. I feel like I have fought for my family, by fasting, by prayer. It’s no use. I am saved myself. But still I feel like there was not a disclaimer when I was married. Why now all of a sudden is there?

archshrk responds: My first advice is to seek Godly counsel from your church elders. Both of you. This may be difficult if your husband is resistant or unwilling to reconcile but you should go even if he won’t. If you are not currently a member of a church then look for a Christian counseling center in your area. Finally, be sure to spend time in the word. The articles I linked to in the post are well supported by scripture and are a good place to start to understand God’s will in this issue.

We all sin despite the assurance of our salvation. Your husband may already be saved and this is simply the consequence of sin in his life. We can’t change him (the Holy Spirit changes our hearts) but you can still be obedient to God through your actions, demonstrating Christ in all that you do.

My hope is that you can reconcile and that both of you honor your covenant. I’d like to help you as much as I am called and am able to counsel you both. In that regard, please feel free to email me with any questions you have and to let me know how things are going. Even if you’re not interested, please let me know that you received this email.

]]> By: Radioactive Jam http://archshrk.com/2006/05/christian-divorce#comment-489 Radioactive Jam Wed, 17 May 2006 16:49:19 +0000 http://archshrk.com/?p=234#comment-489 Definitely a tough, often painful issue. "Quick to hear (or in this case, read and learn), slow to speak, slow to anger" would make a good foundation or starting-point. Definitely a tough, often painful issue. “Quick to hear (or in this case, read and learn), slow to speak, slow to anger” would make a good foundation or starting-point.

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